dailytrojan.com:
Trojans have started a club to educate students looking to explore the alternative sexuality made popular by the erotic book series Fifty Shades of Grey.
1.11.15
12 Artists Who Did BDSM Art - artnet News
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Whether you've read the book, seen the movie, or are just trying to ignore it all, it's impossible to deny that Fifty Shades of Grey is everywhere. Sam Taylor-Johnson's sexual thriller, based on the bestselling book by E.L. James, has made bondage mainstream, well sort of, much to the chagrin of both the BDSM community and the anti-porn community (see Sam Taylor-Johnson Premieres Fifty Shades of Grey Amid Anti-Porn Protests).
BDSM to be removed from list of mental illness in Nordic countries
newshour.com.bd: Iceland’s Directorate of Health has no objection to the country following the lead of all the other Nordic countries and removing BDSM behavior from its list of mental illnesses, reports Iceland Review.
The head of the Directorate has invited the leader of the Icelandic BDSM Association to a meeting on how best to acquiesce to the Association’s request for its members’ sexual preferences to be removed from the list.
Birgir Jakobsson, head of the Directorate of Health, revealed his position to RÚV following news that Iceland is the only Nordic country which still classifies BDSM as a mental illness.
BDSM stands for Bondage, Dominance & Submission and Masochism and covers such a wide range of sexual practices which are indulged in by so many people at regularities ranging from once in a lifetime to daily, that self-identification is usually the only way of recognizing the “disease”. The BDSM Association thinks this is inappropriate in the modern world, and the Directorate of Health agrees.
Earlier this month the Association sent the Directorate a letter formally requesting that BDSM be removed from the mental illness list—thereby following the footsteps of Finland in 2012, Norway in 2010, Sweden in 2009 and Denmark in 1994 and 1995.
Asked how it came to be that Iceland is so far behind the times, Birgir said that the matter has not come up in any pan-Nordic meetings or projects since he took on the job and that it is therefore very good that the BDSM Association took action to bring the matter to the Directorate’s attention.
He says that he is in agreement with the point-of-view raised in the Association’s letter and sees no reason for Iceland not to follow the example of its neighboring countries.
16.9.15
Women want sex just as much as men - emotional connection was key to having "good" sex - Mirror Online
Women want sex just as much as their partners - or even more - according to a recent survey.
Kindara, a fertility app, asked 500 female users about their opinions about the female libido.
More than half of the respondents said they weren't entirely satisfied with how much sex they were currently having.
A whopping 75 per cent said they'd like to get cosy under the sheets more than three times a week.
And an energetic 13 per cent said they wanted to have sex more than six times a week.
Survey: More than half of those surveyed were not satisfied with how much sex they were getting
When it comes to performance, 72 per cent said they orgasm during every sexual encounter and "many" did multiple times.
Just over half the women quizzed said that emotional connection was key to having "good" sex, while 23 per cent said foreplay was more important.
Stress was their biggest obstacle to sex, according to about 40 per cent of respondents.
But 18 per cent said nothing would get in the way if they wanted to have sex.
10.9.15
Growing Up Kinky
www.huffingtonpost.comWhen you read popular kinky novels, you get the impression that being kinky is a choice you make as an adult. The protagonist reads a book, sees a movie, or meets that one certain kinky yin to their vanilla yang, and their entire sexual identity shifts. That's how it happened in Nine and a Half Weeks. It even happened that way in Story of O. You meet someone else, and before you know it, you fall into a pit of lust and do stuff you never even dreamed of doing before.
In other words, it's all fiction. It's a way for people to rationalize their desires: "Oh, I was just walking along, minding by own vanilla business, and then -- whoosh! -- I saw this hot woman behind me, and now I'm a lesbian." No. It doesn't happen like that. Even when it feels as if it does, it doesn't.
Sexual identity doesn't start in adulthood. You can't catch sexual identity from someone else or be "turned" if you are not built for it in the first place.
Charles Williams
Williams came to Oxford after joining the Inklings. He soon became a fixture there, drawing crowds to hear him lecture on Milton, Shakespeare, romantic love, the Arthurian mythos. His eccentric views exasperated and sometimes infuriated the far more conservative Tolkien. Williams viewed his own wife as "his Beatrice, muse and model of perfection," none of which prevented him from developing passionate, if mostly platonic, relationships with younger women. At least one of these involved ritual sadomasochism, of which Williams wrote in a letter to his paramour: "I am sadistic towards you, but … I wouldn't hurt a fly unless it made it perfectly clear that it liked it. And then only a little. And then only for the conversation."
Review - J.R.R. Tolkien, C.S. Lewis, and 'The Fellowship' of fantasy writers www.latimes.com/books/
7 Surprising Sex Trends Throughout History, Because People Have Always Been Frisky
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When I was a teenager, I had an older relative who used to like to tell any young person who crossed her path, "You kids think you invented sex!" And while I didn't technically think that sex had been invented in 1997 (the year I finally got someone to agree to touch my vagina), I did assume that all of the fun and interesting kinds of sex had probably been invented fairly recently (probably by people at Woodstock or something). After all, hadn't sex been pretty much limited to heterosexual missionary-style couplings with the lights off until, like, 1963?
Of course, after I took a break from having my vagina touched and decided to go read some cultural history, I learned that sexual innovation was nothing new — not only had people been inventing and then dropping sexual trendssince pretty much the beginning of recorded history, but many of our most hallowed sexual and romantic traditions started as a freaky sexual trend hundreds or thousands of years ago (or, conversely, some things that we currently consider a freaky sexual trend where considered totally vanilla and normal hundreds of years ago).
So what did our ancient ancestors do when they were looking to spice things up on date night? Here are seven historical sex trends that will leave you unable to look your history textbook in the eye ever again.
Ancient Egypt (3100-332 BC): Lipstick Means You're Open To Oral
Why doctors need to pay more attention to their kinky patients
On Valentine’s Day weekend last year I found myself at Paddles, the local dungeon in New York City’s Chelsea neighborhood, for the first time. I was perched at the alcohol-free bar when a man politely introduced himself as a human carpet. He asked that I tread on him and lay on the floor to demonstrate. A professional dominatrix-in-training stepped onto his chest and buried her stilettos deep into his belly. His eyes were closed and he looked calm—blissful, really. As a medical student, I winced, imaging the arrangement of his delicate organs in relation to her vicious heels.
Can A Feminist Be Submissive, Too? How Feminist Politics Support My Kinky Sexual Desires
I didn’t always know that I was a feminist — or that I was a submissive.Growing up in a rather conservative family in southern Ohio, neither of those words were ones that I heard at the dinner table. But as I grew older, my adolescent dreams and fantasies often led me into kinky waters. Although I felt awkward in my body through my early teen years, I felt at ease as I would stare out the school bus window, looking past the suburban landscape and imagining a world of taboo fantasies that provided an odd comfort to me — a hidden treasure of a world that only I could access.
My feminist identity began to develop in high school, as well, as I ravenously read through every feminist piece of literature that I could get my hands on, and spent my time worshiping Sylvia Plath, Yoko Ono, Diane DiPrima, and Kathleen Hanna.
Madonna gets kinky in S&M-themed shoot while slamming attitudes to women: “You’re still either a virgin or a whore”
The outspoken star feels “gay rights are
way more advanced than women’s rights”
The Many Heresies of Madonna Louise Ciccone
Photography by Mert & Marcus
"Why was she gay? Come on!”
Irked, Madonna twists her fingerless lace gloves, exposing a bejeweled skull on her ring finger. It’s a Friday night in the dead of winter, and we’re sitting in a windowless office in an anonymous skyscraper in Midtown Manhattan. The drab space has been enhanced at Madonna’s request with a few cultural cues: Jean-Luc Godard’s Breathless streams in an adjoining room, while Carl Dreyer’s 1928 masterpiece, The Passion of Joan of Arc, streams in this one, as the Queen of Pop lashes me for my ignorance regarding the Maid of Orleans. The lashing is figurative, but Madonna’s impatience is real. I’m only stating the obvious, I think, in observing that the virgin warrior must have been gay, but what this lazy assumption tells Madonna is that I have completely missed the point of Joan of Arc.
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