How to talk about kink with a new partner, because it doesn't have to be awkward

But if there aren’t any rules, what’s an aspiring kinkster to do with a new-ish partner when they want to try something that the other person might find strange? First of all, wait until you’re comfortable with someone and have developed a sense of trust. The experts are right in that there’s no formula for this, but you can typically tell if someone is basically trustworthy. While some people say that you should just let your freak flag fly from the very start, there are real risks around putting your private sexual desires out into the public domain, so trust is key.

Interestingly, kink preferences often break down along party lines. Liberals tend to be drawn to BDSM (bondage, domination or discipline, sadism, and masochism), while conservatives are more likely to be into taboo-breaking activities, like age and incest play. 

https://www.mic.com/p/how-to-talk-about-kink-with-a-new-partner-because-it-doesnt-have-to-be-awkward-18159768

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Dogs Don’t Wear Pants - review

Respected surgeon Juha (Pekka Strang) is numb with grief after the death of his wife by drowning. When his teenage daughter chivvies him into taking her to a tattoo parlour so she can get a tongue-piercing, prim Juha does not care to witness the grisly procedure and so tactfully wanders away elsewhere on the premises and happens across the dungeon of dominatrix Mona (Krista Kosonen). He is enthralled and emotionally freed by the forbidden ritual, and he enters into an obsessive sub/dom relationship with her.

https://www.theguardian.com/film/2020/mar/19/dogs-dont-wear-pants-review-j-p-valkeapaa - Dogs Don’t Wear Pants review – alarming antics in the sex dungeon

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A Dominatrix on the Surge in BDSM During Coronavirus

Mistress Eva is one of the most in-demand Mistresses in the BDSM world. She writes about the large increase in sign-ups to her BDSM training website during the COVID-19 pandemic.

"Now this slave is back in their home country—albeit in quarantine, and thankfully his tone has quietened. But that edge and panic soon began to show itself among all of my submissives as my other travel plans came to a standstill and the prospect of us meeting up went on an indefinite hold. My submissives began to reach out through messages with greater frequency, and as the reality of being grounded in Bali took hold I began to devise a strategy for us. I have now started a roster of weekly or fortnightly video calls where we mostly talk about our lives and families, we make plans for once these times are settled, sometimes we swap business crisis-management ideas, and occasionally we play to our kinks. In between these calls I assign them tasks to enliven their quarantines and remind them of us: business shirts and latex chaps during Zoom meetings, YouTube-ing various handwashing techniques, and one slave and I are even about to embark on an academic online course together. "

https://www.thedailybeast.com/a-dominatrix-on-the-surge-in-bdsm-during-coronavirus?ref=scroll
https://www.youwillpleaseme.com/


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Katy Perry - Bon Appétit (Official) ft. Migos

Mind-boggling bondage bikini is 'huge hit' in Far East | Style | Life & Style | Daily Express

Mind-boggling bondage bikini is 'huge hit' in Far East | Style | Life & Style | Daily Express:



Buyma's latest bikini designs are leaving so little to the imagination, fashionistas are questioning whether it's even suitable for the beach.



The racy bikini, pictured on their website in a royal blue colour, definitely flaunts the model's curves with every inch of her body on show.



Just about covering her modesty, the strappy wonder would certainly give any brave bikini-goer some funny tan lines if they used it to sunbathe in. At $38, it's a lot of money for something that's barely-there.



The bottoms - usually modelled on a design going back hundreds of years - are undeniably futuristic.

BDSM practitioners less likely to have victim-blaming attitudes in sexual violence cases - iNews

BDSM practitioners less likely to have victim-blaming attitudes in sexual violence cases - The i newspaper online iNews:


People who take part in BDSM sex activities (bondage, discipline/dominance, submission/sadism, masochism) are less likely to hold attitudes consistent with rape culture, research has found. Victim-blaming attitudes are less widespread as well as acceptance of so-called rape myths in sexual violence cases, according to the study. The reason for this could be because the BDSM subculture has “affirmative consent norms,” says Kathryn Klement, co-author of the study

Marlon Brando and James Dean had 'secret master and slave S&M relationship'

Marlon Brando and James Dean had 'secret master and slave S&M relationship' | Daily Mail Online:

EXCLUSIVE: Marlon the master and James Dean his slave: Stars had 'secret master and slave S&M relationship' as Streetcar Named Desire star stubbed out cigarettes on his younger lover

• New book claims James Dean was in love with Marlon Brando and they become lovers - but it was a twisted S&M affair
• Brando was 'only in love with Brando' and would make Dean loiter outside his apartment in the desperate hope his idol would invite him in for sex
• When Dean first met Brando, in 1949, he told him he was 'his biggest fan' and the two kissed 
• Dean showed Rogers Brackett, a Manhattan advertising executive who was his on-off boyfriend, how Brando stubbed out cigarettes oh him
• Book, called James Dean: Tomorrow Never Comes, also claims Dean had a gay threesome with Walt Disney and My Fair Lady director George Cukor

By DANIEL BATES FOR DAILYMAIL.COM

Tender Photos of a BDSM Street Festival | VICE | United Kingdom

Tender Photos of a BDSM Street Festival | VICE | United Kingdom:

That Time I Tried BDSM Therapy - The Atlantic

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How to get into BDSM - GQ.co.uk

GQ.co.uk:

Join us as we graduate from plain old orgies and enter the class of rope and knife work...

Wet (psychoanalytical) dreams 

John Huston as the father of the Marquis de Sade in De Sade (1969)

Getty Images We have 19th Century psychiatrist Richard von Krafft-Ebing to thank for the term "sadomasochism" along with two writers, the Marquis de Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. The Marquis was keen on kidnapping women, cutting into their flesh and then suturing the wounds with hot wax. He spent over 30 years in insane asylums and wrote prolifically on the subject of sex and pain. Leopold was more into submission. He reenacted his novella Venus in Furs with his mistress by signing a contract that bound him to being her slave. He revelled in being dominated and the physical pain from being whipped.
Richard von Krafft-Ebing introduced the terms "Sadism" and "Masochism" in a medical context, defining fantasies of receiving or inflicting pain as signs of being psychologically disturbed. Leopold von Sacher-Masoch was understandably upset by this (and Marquis de Sade was six-feet under so he had little to say on the matter.)